5 things to know before dating a navy guy

So, you've been eyeing that smart, attractive navy guy you're lucky enough to know personally. you are intrigued. Your navy guy is handsome, smart, funny and confident. Visions of him in that sparkling white uniform over his well-toned body sweeping you off your feet run through your head.
Who can blame you? Navy guys are hot.

But navy guys aren't like the regular dudes who stretch the limits of stupidity trying to impress you. Nor are they the idiots you ladies continually fall for. No, navy guys are different beings (which is why you're attracted to them in the first place), and you should realise - before jumping in - that this isn't going to be a run-of-the-mill, boring, lame relationship you're used to.

Here's what you need to know:

1. We don't have a job. Our's is a way of life. And that's what makes us unique and more importantly awesome. So understand that our lives will not revolve around you. There will be things we don't tell you and it won't be because we forget to tell you. It's just that it's not your business to know. Using your trump card, the 'emotional blackmail', is a vary bad idea because we generally have bigger things to worry about like national security, flood relief etc... We will always be nice to you but dont expect us to pick up subtle hints. So if you want that dress tell us you want that dress and tell us before we sail out again.

2. Don't bitch about our work timings. Ours is not a 9-5 job. We might sail for days together, come back and sail out the next day. There is nothing you can do about it. You don't join the navy to sit in harbour and flip over some files. We are meant to sail so it is better that you get used to it. There may be times when we have to sail at short notice and we will drop everything we are doing-even if its you. Sure, we'll make up for lost time when we are in harbour but there is a one out of two chance that we will miss your birthday, your graduation, your job interview, your first day at work, etc... We'll buy you belated cards if that makes you feel any better.

3. We know we are good. Arrogant? Maybe. Knowing that we got here by intellectually and physically kicking the ass of lakhs of other guys from all over the country and then trained in one of the most prestigious and toughest institutions of the country. You really cant blame us.

Don't be surprised if you dont evoke sympathy from us when you tell us about those tiresome days at college before exams when you couldn't sleep for more than 3 hours. We have been through much worse. Many times.

We have a tough and risky job. We are responsible for equipment's worth millions and lives worth infinitely more so we are a difficult kind to impress.

Sure, we'll look interested when you tell us about how you risked your life by rappelling down that wall during a two day rock climbing course in Goregaon but you can safely assume that we are not impressed.

4. Coursemates are coursemates. If at times you feel that our course mates are more important to us than you, you are probably right. You are here today. Experience says that you will probably be gone tomorrow. Coursemates are here to stay. So do the math.

5. Dont bring in the green eyed monster. We pull chairs for you. We open doors for you. You are impressed. We are chivalrous by nature. Which means we will pull chairs for others, we will open doors for others. That doesn't mean we are trying to score with otheres. Chivalry isn't restricted to just you so don't be jealous about it.

Navy guys are a passionate and adventurous lot. We carry those attributes into our relationships making it an experience worth living.

If the pitfalls are scaring you away, consider this:

Our way of life accomodates your most romantic fantasies and you won't be disappointed.

We spend time away from you when we sail but rest assured that you will have the time of your life when we get back on land.

Ever went on a date with an attractive guy but realised that you can't have a fun or intelligent conversation with him? Not going to happen here.

Yes, it may seem that we sometimes put out friends ahead of you but that just shows that our priorities are not rhetorical but are based purely on merit.

Our job is important and we are passionate about it. You wont be dating a loser who is doing a 9-5 and whose claim to fame is a 10 min slideshow on what he thinks the office wallpaper should be.

So there you go...5 things to remember before dating a navy guy to help you get the ground rules straight.