5 things to know before dating a navy guy

So, you've been eyeing that smart, attractive navy guy you're lucky enough to know personally. you are intrigued. Your navy guy is handsome, smart, funny and confident. Visions of him in that sparkling white uniform over his well-toned body sweeping you off your feet run through your head.
Who can blame you? Navy guys are hot.

But navy guys aren't like the regular dudes who stretch the limits of stupidity trying to impress you. Nor are they the idiots you ladies continually fall for. No, navy guys are different beings (which is why you're attracted to them in the first place), and you should realise - before jumping in - that this isn't going to be a run-of-the-mill, boring, lame relationship you're used to.

Here's what you need to know:

1. We don't have a job. Our's is a way of life. And that's what makes us unique and more importantly awesome. So understand that our lives will not revolve around you. There will be things we don't tell you and it won't be because we forget to tell you. It's just that it's not your business to know. Using your trump card, the 'emotional blackmail', is a vary bad idea because we generally have bigger things to worry about like national security, flood relief etc... We will always be nice to you but dont expect us to pick up subtle hints. So if you want that dress tell us you want that dress and tell us before we sail out again.

2. Don't bitch about our work timings. Ours is not a 9-5 job. We might sail for days together, come back and sail out the next day. There is nothing you can do about it. You don't join the navy to sit in harbour and flip over some files. We are meant to sail so it is better that you get used to it. There may be times when we have to sail at short notice and we will drop everything we are doing-even if its you. Sure, we'll make up for lost time when we are in harbour but there is a one out of two chance that we will miss your birthday, your graduation, your job interview, your first day at work, etc... We'll buy you belated cards if that makes you feel any better.

3. We know we are good. Arrogant? Maybe. Knowing that we got here by intellectually and physically kicking the ass of lakhs of other guys from all over the country and then trained in one of the most prestigious and toughest institutions of the country. You really cant blame us.

Don't be surprised if you dont evoke sympathy from us when you tell us about those tiresome days at college before exams when you couldn't sleep for more than 3 hours. We have been through much worse. Many times.

We have a tough and risky job. We are responsible for equipment's worth millions and lives worth infinitely more so we are a difficult kind to impress.

Sure, we'll look interested when you tell us about how you risked your life by rappelling down that wall during a two day rock climbing course in Goregaon but you can safely assume that we are not impressed.

4. Coursemates are coursemates. If at times you feel that our course mates are more important to us than you, you are probably right. You are here today. Experience says that you will probably be gone tomorrow. Coursemates are here to stay. So do the math.

5. Dont bring in the green eyed monster. We pull chairs for you. We open doors for you. You are impressed. We are chivalrous by nature. Which means we will pull chairs for others, we will open doors for others. That doesn't mean we are trying to score with otheres. Chivalry isn't restricted to just you so don't be jealous about it.

Navy guys are a passionate and adventurous lot. We carry those attributes into our relationships making it an experience worth living.

If the pitfalls are scaring you away, consider this:

Our way of life accomodates your most romantic fantasies and you won't be disappointed.

We spend time away from you when we sail but rest assured that you will have the time of your life when we get back on land.

Ever went on a date with an attractive guy but realised that you can't have a fun or intelligent conversation with him? Not going to happen here.

Yes, it may seem that we sometimes put out friends ahead of you but that just shows that our priorities are not rhetorical but are based purely on merit.

Our job is important and we are passionate about it. You wont be dating a loser who is doing a 9-5 and whose claim to fame is a 10 min slideshow on what he thinks the office wallpaper should be.

So there you go...5 things to remember before dating a navy guy to help you get the ground rules straight.

Perfect Man

No man is perfect.....i disagree.....perfection is purely a state of mind. Among one of the limitless capabilities of the human mind is its capability to choose what it wants to believe. If the mind wants to believe an object to be perfect then it simply alters the 'dimension of perfectness' to accommodate that object. To be a perfect man one just needs to sculpture his 'idea of perfectness' to accommodate himself. The requirement of self improvisation is unnecessary to be a 'perfect man', it is necessary to be a better 'perfect man'.

Ankush

If he was around during pre-independence time then he would have claimed his space in our history books along with his Bengali freedom fighter forefathers. And a great one he would have been because i am yet to meet anyone who can work with such fierce determination towards what he wants like this bong can. But his inner aggression is lost in his placid exterior. Friendly, accommodating, peaceful and thoughtful are few of his valuable qualities and his ability of appreciating the small things in life is more than admirable. He is what many call a 'freelance thinker". A reader, a beliver of free will and also our mobile dictionary. His lanky frame nicely supplements his amazing basketball skills and we have shared some unforgettable moments on the court. An impressive runner and someone who hasnt been bitten by the 'lets fatten up' bug.

Anyways...one thing is for sure. If he ever writes a book I would be the first one to buy it.

Civilization

Civilization: making or becoming civilized ie to improve from a primitive to a developed stage of society or to simply to improve the behavior of.....(oxford)

Mankinds biggest achivement...civilization. No. Sorry. I am wrong. How can it be called an achivement if it is not yet attained. The scope of improvement is not exhausted and so civilization is not yet achieved. Will it ever be? The process of getting civilized is the the thing at which mankind has been working at since his very existence. Phew!! So many lifetimes over and over again!! Think about it. Do we have a claim to the word 'civilized'? If so then civilized against what? Against our past! Oh yes we are! We have improved right? Then what about our past? 'uncivilised'? Did they think of themselves uncivilized? I dont think so. Well..again..will our future accuse us of being 'uncivilized'? So is the idea of civilization a paranoia of the present grandeur compared to the past...'the theory of relativity' of life?

Or is it a war which we wage against our own past? The same war which our future will wage against us in its time. A war which maintains the constant unstability across time required for its very existence. A silent war and we are all soldiers. Fighting little battles. Battles against individual pasts. A battle without boundaries. The battle of self improvisation. We use up our
lifetime waging this war and then hand it over to the next generation to take it from where we left to bring oneself to perfection. The perfect being in a Perfect society in a perfect
world. God save us if that happens. That would be the end. It would stop the process. The process which is responsible for the evolution of mankind. The process which is the very reason for man to exist. Man is an animal of reason. That would be his folly on judgement
day. Perfection attained, he looses his 'reason' for existence and that will finish him. It would kill you and me too.

Perfection is what I want and perfection is what I will never achive. Thank god for that. I prefer joining the battle which i wont win. I want to be in the process not be the result.

You can call me 'uncivilized'.

Sonam Shah

My first beer is dedicated to this guy for buying it for me....but dont get me wrong..he would be the first person to kick your backside if he thinks you are going the wrong way....a guy with sophisticated tastes and a 'dont mess with me attitude'....if you are not his friend it is because he doesnt want you as his friend.Amongst his friends he plays the 'guy who is matured' role and carries it quite well too.He is a guy who stands up to what he thinks is right without bothering much about its consequences.One thing he loves more than his bike is his cellphone (anyone could guess why).He belongs to Nainital and his parents are settled in Delhi but the place he calls home is 'Jaipur'.Someone said...'love endures....'

Harsh (venu)

Harshvardhan Venugopal.....though he is fondly called by many other names which i dont intend to divulge in such a public forum for obvious reasons.I have know him for about 4 1/2 years and we have shared a lot in common and thus comes right up in the top slot of my buddy list.If i have to use words to describe him i would use lazy, friendly, confused, funny, chubby, tall, talented, easygoing, trouble inviter, kindhearted, and i would use 'lazy' again....i have strong reasons to feel that if it wasnt for his 'lazy' side he would have gone places.The guy has it in him to do things if he puts his mind in it....but well...thats where the problem is...doesnt quite happen that way.But again....he will go out of his way to help his friends if they really need it and is always around to make you laugh and see the lighter side of life.There has not been many instances where i have seen him loose his temper too much and that makes him even more friendly.But even after being a 'mallu' it is quite obvious that his heart belongs to hyderbad.

Amchi Mumbai!!!!

Born and brought up in the city of Cochin i will still swear my alligeance to this city so aptly called 'the queen of the Arabian sea'. But there is another city up the coast upon which the salt white foams of the Arabian sea unleashes its charm.....a city which with its five islands in unision has captured my fondness......The city of Mumbai.
This fondness has surprised me in quite a few ways.Firstly because I have lived here only for a very brief period of seven months (and a few 3 day visits).Secondly because of the preconcieved notion I carried about Mumbai being an over polluted and overpopulated city which was proved right to a very great extent.But the city has a charismatic charm which eventually won my heart.

Being in the profession i am in, I had the rare privilage of living in Mumbai and not get involved and observe the city from an outsiders view and also participate when i felt like doing so by just letting go and immersing myself in the wave of motion that this city is.That is true...Mumbai is in 'constant motion' and it is this 'constant motion' that defines its existence....you stop and you will be left behind.To live in this city one must be prepared to switch over to a high energy state which this city demands.To witness this 'high energy' one just has to step into the local rail terminal at churchgate...
The high concentration of activity one gets to witness here is a sight to behold.The people here look possessed....looks as if they are in a race...a race with time where everyone knows exactly what his role is and carries it out with such mechanical precision that you just look in wonder.A train stops.....an avalanche of people unleashed onto the platform and then diffusing into the sea of people already there.....some stop to have their routine frankie n munch it on their way to a taxi...some need their coffee...while some others cannot afford these luxuries so just breeze past....across the road....down a lane and eventually to their small shop at fashion street.Life here goes on....'life' doesn't have much of a choice....In Mumbai everyone is a 'Mumbaikar',doesn't matter where your origin is or what the language your tounge speaks,because unless u don't belong u wont be.

Another aspect of Mumbai is its capability to provide you an environment which gives you ample opportunity to unwind and come to ground zero after a hard day......environment available
: so many......marine drive, chowpati, causeway, carter's road, juhu, n so on......too many to list...n too few i have visited to mention here....and of course if you are the party going type then you have tavern, totos, polyester, enigma, leopold, escape, rockbottom, hawaian shack, not to mention the after party lounge zaffran and so on....again...too many to mention.....and that too....one thing or the other available 24 hours of the day...so it doesn't matter if you are the 'work hard during the day' or the 'work hard during the night' types....you have places available at all times to cater for your needs.....
Yet another thing admirable about the clan of 'Mumbaikars' is their attitude of 'i am busy so i don't have time for anything else'.This lets people live their life the way they want without bothering much about what the society thinks because of the fact that the society is too busy earning their living to poke their nose into how you live your life.....nowhere else in our country have i found a place where girls can travel at 2 at night without feeling too threatened....

It has been only a short while since i have been away from Mumbai but i already miss it badly....miss the malls...the crowded trains....the yellow black taxis....the midnight dhabhas....the egg burjis....the pav bhajis.....and foremost...the twilight at marine drive....it feels like i have left a part of me behind and then burdened the other part of me to carry so fond memories of this enchanted city that it begs to return.......what can i say but....

amchi mumbai!!!

Vishal Sharma

He belives in 'sunlight is harmful for me because of d uv rays' so sleeps the whole day n 'everybody sleeps at night so shall i' n goes on to sleep the whole night....but all this comes wth a package of attitude that says 'im going to do as i please irrespective of the consequences'.....after knowing him i have started beliving in the phrase 'fortune favours the brave'...lady luck stays committed to him....the guy has a heart of gold n cannot stand to see people suffering but it definitely not a nice idea to come on his wrong side...

Akshay Raja

This 'ghati by only birth' is a slave to his persistent inner urge to add on to his collection of accessories...the latest being an apple i - touch (calls it 'passion' but never comes up wth valid arguments to stand by this claim).
His confidence in the matters of the world is of of such a high virtue that we trust him only when he is not confident of something. His friendly n 'i want to have fun n u can come along' attitude makes him an amazing company.